Husband derailed during pregnancy: anger, disappointment, and tangling, the wife’s anti -system made everyone admire

In this case, we have to start to deal with it, so I summarize it as a battle and the second talk.

The so -called World War I was to start to declare war with him.The second talk, first of all, the talks between your husband and wife, and then ask your three -party talks to implement these things. How can this marriage be helpless?

If you do everything one by one, you will not be helpless, but if you want to eat all the matter, you will feel that there is no way.To set the small goals one by one, you will have a way.

[Question] Teacher Zhu, we have been in love for five years, have been married for more than ten years, and their children are eight years old. They are all engaged in medicine, but they are busy. In the past, the family was mainly economy depends on me, and now it depends on him.

Because of my husband’s reasons, we can’t have the second child. When I am going to prepare the test tube, I find that he has an extramarital affairs. I am helpless. What should I do?

Teacher Zhu Yongyong answered:

Let’s take a look at what you are helpless?What do you feel helpless?Do you want to break up with him, he is unwilling to break up?Still you face it yourself, fight for the old life to be this IVF, but he is derailed.

Do you think your self -worth is lost?Is the value as a woman gone?Or this man caused this problem for his own reasons. Is he going to engage in extramarital affairs? Is this helpless?This is the first problem to solve helplessness.

If you want to solve this problem, you enter the second problem.Do you want to divorce, or do you want to save this marriage, do you want your husband to end this extramarital affairs?

Obviously, you see that your marriage is not necessary to divorce.The five standards for divorce are not in line with, so divorce is not considered.

Therefore, this marriage is worth saving, not for children, not a housewife, and the economic situation in the family depends on him, and does not consider this thing.

Purely considers your marriage and does not have the basis of the five aspects of divorce, so it is not necessary to be saved without need to divorce.

The third question is to see where is the conflict in marriage?Where is this marriage crisis that causes this man or now leads to marriage?

Is it possible that the collapse of his self -esteem caused by having a child?Many men are like this. Men cannot get pregnant, and men will feel that they are worthless. Am I not a man?

This is a question of subconsciousness and a problem of changes in men’s psychology, so he is likely to find other women to prove that he is attractive, attractive, and can still do.Is this a question?

Of course, we also have to consider some other issues, and list it all. Only in the case of listing, we can understand how extramarital affairs are arisen, instead of blindly staring at who is right and wrong.

As long as you stare at who is right and who is wrong, there will be a deeper conflict in the process.

The fourth problem is that since there is an extramarital affairs, we will declare war and we will start war. We must not allow ourselves to endure, we must not allow ourselves to bear silently, and we do not allow me to say that I have no way.

You need to know that there will be a way.Under what happens?He had an extramarital affairs. He resolutely divorced you, and he had to divorce you when he went out of the house. He took a divorce operation and all sued you.Only in this case can there be no way and helpless.

The fifth question, how can we declare war with him?

First of all, we must make this extramarital affairs clearly, and tell him that you do not accept such a marriage, marriage, and extramarital affairs to make a choice. We need to talk with him.

The next thing to continue is to deal with the problems he may have.Because you told him to make a choice, he may have some problems, and we have to start to deal with it, so I summarize it as a battle and a second talk.

The so -called World War I was to start to declare war with him.The second talk, first of all, the talks between your husband and wife, and then ask your three -party talks to implement these things. How can this marriage be helpless?

If you do everything one by one, you will not be helpless, but if you want to eat all the matter, you will feel that there is no way.To set the small goals one by one, you will have a way.

Author: Zhu Shiyong, Fudan MBA, founder of marriage management school, national first-level marriage and family consultant, national second-level psychological counselor, author of best-selling book "Extrateronal Love Governance-Fudan MBA Hands Teach You Save Marriage" Welcome to follow me.Let’s communicate and explore marriage together.You are also welcome to make a private message marriage, and I will come to reply to everyone.

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